Here is a poll for the girls :) Guys, don't answer, everyone knows your choice is the last one :) The question is: What should a girl allow on the first date?

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I would think that the poll is missing couple of options: 0. Handshake 2. Kiss in the lips Also, I would disagree with you on what all guys want. You're probably right for most guys, but I for one am not looking for “whole 9 yards” on the first date.

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Lesh, so you who got a date with tonight?! Tell us who it is and I'll tell you what's the best course of action.. :)

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Kostya, agreed! I understand very well that not all guys seek sex right away, but I was mostly just kidding :) I'd say most guys want that, not all :)

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Allochka, the only thing I have a date with tonight is my bed, unfortunately :) This is not for my personal "korystnyh" purposes, but just another funny poll, "ot nechego delat'" :)

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Alex, before French kiss u could add a Regular kiss on the lips...and a bite on the ear... also, here is a new "Zemfira" , ee raskruchivet Pucacheva, mozet tebe ponravit'sya: http://www.rbcmp3.com/store/product.asp?dept%5Fid=800&sku=29637

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Stas, "po zhelanijam telezritelei" the regular kiss in the lips has been added :) Thanks for the link, man, but Lubasha is just a shadow of Zemfira, in my humble opinion. Pugacheva and Zemfira are in a catfight, so Alla Borisovna pulled out this mediocrity and made a "star" out of her. Not even close.

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Hoti Lubashu poka i ne slishala, no soglasna naschet copycat. Zemfira bila pervaia, so she is *the* best! :-)

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Kostya.. luckily, there are guys like you out there who don't expect to get laid on a 1st date. Ne perevelis' na svete nastoyachie mujchini.. and that' reassuring..

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Kostya, good strategy !

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OK let me re-state myself here, so Alla (and other girls here) does not think we are all a bunch of jerks :) Most guys don't expect to get laid on the first date and won't attempt that. Those who expect that and try to get laid are a**holes. However, ALL guys THINK of sex on the first date! I mean, let's be real! I think that's relevant to girls, too. The first time she sees the man on the date, one of the thoughts (not ALL, but ONE of them) in the back of her mind is :"is he sexually attractive, is he good in bed?". That does not mean she wants to have sex right away, right! There is difference between thinking and actions, and by saying that most guys want to get laid on the first date I meant that most (I'd say all) guys think about it. A guy will think about it but will only give a hug or a kiss on on the first date because it is first date and the guy is decent. Tell me I am wrong, and I will shoot myself!!!

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You're not wrong.

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Alex, I disagree with you on some portions of your post, but before you shoot yourself, here is my take on this: There are plenty of people (guys and girls) who expect to get laid on the first date/night/1 hour they see each other. I don't think it makes them as*holes, as long as it's mutual. Alex..are you still here? Hello...somebody dial 911...

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i think this poll and followup discussion mostly illustrate one thing: main difference between us, pips, and animals is that we loove put pressure on ourselves...i mean why rush at all, like there is no tomorrow ? i'm sure that constant attemts to choose right strategy on the first or so date lead usually to choosing the wrong one, again, cuz it's the pressure that builds up..i almost can see a nervous guy on a doorsteps to his date's house reaching into his pocket, saying to her "wait a minute, here is the chart, was today our first date ? ok, according to this i am allowed a tap on your right buttock, long sad look into your eyes, and lick of one of your ears, your choice..." then she reaches for her chart "hm..i don't see anything here about tap on my tooshie, however i'll let u lick my ear but the flowers, again according to my chart here, were supposed to be roses, yet this dry bundle of brocken twigs u gave me doesn't get u anything tonight, mister, better luck next time"...

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I have to say that I agree with both Alex and Kostya. On some level, conscientiously or not a person considers the sexual compatibility with who they are on the date with. Whether they choose to act on it or not should depend on the way the date is going and the mutual consensus of both parties. I don't think ALL guys want some action on the first date, but it really depends on there age, maturity level, location, and other factors. I added location in there because if you were in Cancun for Spring Break (which I unfortunately wasn't because I got really sick) then you would be in a very sexual atmosphere where most guys and girls would expect to get laid after 47 minutes of meeting each other (maybe it would be because of all the drinks the foolish spring breakers consume). Kostya is a great guy who definitely knows how to respect a women, my point is that as long as nobody oversteps their boundaries and there is consensus - do what feels right and remember you only live once!

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